Listening

The message in Julian Treasure's video was that we are losing our listening ability. We are no longer paying attention to detail, which is causing poor communication. I agree with this 100%. People are becoming impatient and know longer want to carefully, accurately listen to what others are saying. People are sending messages rather than actively talking, this causes people to lose their ability to recognize the body language of the person sending or receiving the message. The exercise that I commonly try is the "Listening Position" exercise. When communicating with someone, I try to see things from their perspective. I do this by setting aside any biases I have, and listen to what the other person is saying (even if I do not agree). As hard as it may be sometimes, my results are definitely better when I use this approach. It is hard to see things through somebody else's eyes, especially when there are large cultural differences.I guess that's why I have adopted the idea that a person should be able to humor any idea without necessary agreeing with it. 

Who am I?

The Five Things I am Most Proud Of

- I am proud of how good of a father I am to my kids.
- I am proud of my 10 year marriage to my wonderful wife.
- I am proud of my 4.0 GPA last semester.
- I am proud of how far I have came in life(social mobility).
- I am proud of my ability to adapt to hard situations.

Of the five things listed, I am Most Proud Of how good of a father I am to my kids. I never really knew my father growing up. That being said, I understand first hand hand how important it is for a child to have a good relationship with their father. In other words, how important it is for a kid to have a "dad". I was still in high school when my oldest daughter was born. I am proud of all my accomplishments in life, but none of them come close to how proud I am to be a father to such wonderful kids. My oldest daughter is now 15. I also have a two other daughters, ages 13 and 7, and a two year old son. Without them on my mind, and without their support, I would not be as successful as I feel that I am.

Five Thing I believe In:

- Fairness/equality
- Love
- Family
- Standing up for others
- karma

Although it was hard to choose, I feel that family is what I believe in most. I do my best to teach my children my values, so they themselves can stand up for others, and fight for fair treatment, and social equality. I believe that family should always stick together, under any circumstances. I have witnessed first hand, the strength in family, and I have also felt the weaknesses of not having them I need them. That is why a strong sense of family is my strongest belief.