Doug Bento's blog
Friday, April 22, 2016
group project blog
Skills that I can offer my group
1. Editing Skills - I can proofread our project before it is submitted.
2. Organizational skills - I can help organize a group meeting, keep documents organized, etc....
3. I am helpful - If anyone has any questions or feedback, I am always here to help.
4. People skills - I am fairly easy going, and am willing to give positive, or negative feedback when it will help our group as a whole.
5. I am accessible - If ever a group member needs to get ahold of me, I will answer in a punctual matter.
One proposal for conduct code - I would propose that that if a group member has an issue, or is confused that they reach out to other group members for help. This will ensure that we are on the same page. This will also give us as a group the opportunity to assist a group member in need. I would also propose that as group members we always try and help out a fellow group member and answer any questions that he/she may have for the group. I feel that if we can be supportive, we can be unified, and will be able to come up with a great group project.
My Conflict Ratings:
Avoidance - 12
Accommodate - 12
Competition - 11
Compromise - 19
Collaborate - 18
Sunday, April 17, 2016
Conflict
I first would like to explain a time when I suppressed my feelings in a conflict. One of my siblings commonly said things that I felt were not appropriate in front of my children. In other words "I felt that this person was a bad influence on my kids". I also found them to be kind of embarrassing in social situations. Rather than say something to them and create more family problems (something I already have way too many of), I decided to just limit the amount of time that my family spends around my sibling. I do this by not inviting this person to most child related functions. I also stay mindful of where I keep this persons company. In other words, I do not bring this person around in situations where they can potentially embarrass me. I realize that I should probably say something, but I feel that a person of 25 years of age should be able to understand these types of things without me having to tell them. By not having this person around at these times I am able to be more comfortable in these situations. However, there is the latent consequences of losing individual closeness, as well as losing the potential of a close relationship between this person and their nieces and nephew.
Next I would like to explain a time when I decided to express my feelings in a conflict. I have been married to my wife for 10 years. As time went on it seemed like we were always fighting. We eventually started to not talk about things that were bothering us with each other, which lead to a certain level of passive aggressiveness and resentfulness. It got to the point that we were on the verge of a divorce. Every little thing that we did would ultimately upset the other person and lead to more passive aggressiveness. Finally I decided to put it all on the table. I decided to speak up because she is the most important thing to me, and many of my greatest accomplishments would not have been possible without her support. We discussed all the things that were not working, and looked for ways to fix the problems. Instead of thinking in terms of "me" and "her", I made it a point to look at things from the perspective of "us". Ultimately we came to the conclusion that we were having a breakdown in communication. The messages that we were sending out to each other were not being interpreted the way that either one of us were intending. After we were again able to communicate effectively we were able to once again strengthen our marriage.
Saturday, April 9, 2016
Non Verbal Communication Blog
Sunday, April 3, 2016
Sunday, March 20, 2016
Listening
Sunday, March 6, 2016
Who am I?
The Five Things I am Most Proud Of
- I am proud of how good of a father I am to my kids.
- I am proud of my 10 year marriage to my wonderful wife.
- I am proud of my 4.0 GPA last semester.
- I am proud of how far I have came in life(social mobility).
- I am proud of my ability to adapt to hard situations.
Of the five things listed, I am Most Proud Of how good of a father I am to my kids. I never really knew my father growing up. That being said, I understand first hand hand how important it is for a child to have a good relationship with their father. In other words, how important it is for a kid to have a "dad". I was still in high school when my oldest daughter was born. I am proud of all my accomplishments in life, but none of them come close to how proud I am to be a father to such wonderful kids. My oldest daughter is now 15. I also have a two other daughters, ages 13 and 7, and a two year old son. Without them on my mind, and without their support, I would not be as successful as I feel that I am.
Five Thing I believe In:
- Fairness/equality
- Love
- Family
- Standing up for others
- karma
Although it was hard to choose, I feel that family is what I believe in most. I do my best to teach my children my values, so they themselves can stand up for others, and fight for fair treatment, and social equality. I believe that family should always stick together, under any circumstances. I have witnessed first hand, the strength in family, and I have also felt the weaknesses of not having them I need them. That is why a strong sense of family is my strongest belief.
Sunday, February 7, 2016
Credible source blog
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